The Best Habits for a Strong and Happy Marriage

Marriage is a journey of love, growth, and partnership. As newlyweds, developing healthy habits early on can set the foundation for a strong, happy, and lasting relationship.

Because we are humans, we are going to make mistakes and go through different phases. Sometimes, we move together. Sometimes, we move through them at different times.

Having good habits and routines that keeps you connected through the good times and the challenging ones is one of the most important aspects of a healthy marriage.

Here are some of the best habits you and your spouse can cultivate to ensure a fulfilling marriage:

Create a Routine of Recognizing and Expressing Gratitude

One of the most powerful habits for a successful marriage is practicing gratitude. Make it a daily ritual to acknowledge and appreciate each other. Whether it’s a simple “thank you” for making dinner or a heartfelt note expressing your love, small gestures of gratitude can strengthen your bond and create a positive atmosphere in your home. Try setting aside time each night to share one thing you appreciate about each other—it’s a small habit with a big impact. (We've got a great way to help with this!)

Prioritize Quality Time Together

Life can get busy with work, responsibilities, and social commitments, but making time for each other should always be a priority. Whether it’s a weekly date night, a morning coffee ritual, or an evening walk, setting aside uninterrupted time to connect will keep your relationship strong.

Remain Active & Engaged (Appropriately!) Outside Your Marriage

Your spouse will become a lot of things to you over your marriage. However, if they become everything - your best friend, your sole source of interaction and companionship, it can be trying on a relationship. Keep your hobbies going or develop new ones. Make sure to include your spouse with these as they'd like - you want to supportive and for them to be supportive of you. In order to care for your spouse, you've got to care for yourself, too.

Communicate Openly and Honestly

Healthy communication is the cornerstone of a happy marriage. Practice active listening, express your feelings with kindness, and avoid bottling up emotions. Establish a habit of checking in with each other daily—ask how your partner is feeling, what’s on their mind, and how you can support them. (We've got a great way to help with this, too!)

Resolve Conflicts with Love and Respect

Disagreements are natural, but how you handle them makes all the difference. Approach conflicts with a mindset of teamwork rather than competition. Avoid blame, use “I” statements instead of “you” statements, and work towards a resolution that benefits both of you. Most importantly, never let resentment build—address issues with love and understanding.

Maintain a Spirit of Fun and Playfulness

Marriage should be filled with joy and laughter. Find ways to have fun together—whether it’s playing games, trying new activities, or simply being silly. Keeping a sense of playfulness alive in your relationship will make your bond even stronger.

Continue Dating Each Other

Just because you’re married doesn’t mean the romance should stop! Surprise each other with thoughtful gestures, go on spontaneous adventures, and keep the spark alive by treating each other with the same excitement and affection as when you were dating.

Final Thoughts

Building a thriving marriage takes effort, intention, and love. By incorporating these habits into your daily life, you’ll create a relationship that not only stands the test of time but also flourishes with joy, connection, and deep companionship.

What are some habits you and your spouse practice to keep your marriage strong?